One thing that is really really obviously missing in this letter about visit and family gatherings is any mention of the fact that people have had extra boundaries about gatherings in the past year. Everybody seems to be offering a tiny thread of sympathy about the sister's wedding, but it was last year!! During a pandemic! "We are only going to a wedding this year if we're part of the wedding party" seems like a very reasonable boundary to set in 2020! (Most of the weddings in my extended circle last year, in fact, were "wedding party only" weddings!)
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One thing that is really really obviously missing in this letter about visit and family gatherings is any mention of the fact that people have had extra boundaries about gatherings in the past year. Everybody seems to be offering a tiny thread of sympathy about the sister's wedding, but it was last year!! During a pandemic! "We are only going to a wedding this year if we're part of the wedding party" seems like a very reasonable boundary to set in 2020! (Most of the weddings in my extended circle last year, in fact, were "wedding party only" weddings!)