Sure, I can definitely imagine that. I think exaggeration of the situation in NI does her no favours in this letter. Though overall, I am in a similarish position, I was raised bilingual with a minority language that my husband doesn't speak. It never occured to my husband that it wasn't entirely my decision how to raise our children.

(I decided against trying to bring them up properly bilingual though I am teaching them a few words and I hope that they can make themselves understood in my other language by the time they are older.)