I was born in France, my American parents gave me a name that has a French version and two common American variants (Andrea), but the pronunciation doesn’t quite line up with any of the three.
I started going by “Andi” at age 13, because I *loathe* people mispronouncing my name, and there’s really only one common way to say “Andi” (although people sometimes misspell it with a “y”.)
Since I had a really dysfunctional relationship with my abusive/controlling parents, choosing my own name was a major step in separating myself as an individual person.
This isn’t an issue of racist microaggressions, which are obviously a lot more serious, but it’s definitely possible (especially given the boundary issues I’m seeing from the LW) that “not-Sara” may be using “Sara” by preference, and doesn’t want to get into it with her parents.
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I started going by “Andi” at age 13, because I *loathe* people mispronouncing my name, and there’s really only one common way to say “Andi” (although people sometimes misspell it with a “y”.)
Since I had a really dysfunctional relationship with my abusive/controlling parents, choosing my own name was a major step in separating myself as an individual person.
This isn’t an issue of racist microaggressions, which are obviously a lot more serious, but it’s definitely possible (especially given the boundary issues I’m seeing from the LW) that “not-Sara” may be using “Sara” by preference, and doesn’t want to get into it with her parents.