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firecat (attention machine in need of calibration) ([personal profile] firecat) wrote in [community profile] agonyaunt 2021-04-03 03:05 am (UTC)

She doesn’t think it’s a big deal

This is the key. Mom has every right to consider this a flag and keep an eye out for other flags, but it's up to daughter to decide if this is a problem.

On the one hand, many people misname me by lengthening my first name, and many people misspell my first name, even when replying to an email where my name is right in front of them. I hate those things. If an SO did either of them, they wouldn't stay an SO for long.

On the other hand, my not!spouse and I chose a mutual last name together, and we pronounce it slightly differently. I'd be very salty if either set of parents decided there was something disrespectful going on because of this.

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