It's her name, LW. Her name, her relationship, her life. You are being way too controlling of stuff that is NOT YOURS. Maybe she likes the name Sara (maybe she likes it better than the name you're so proud of giving her, and doesn't want to hurt your feelings by saying so)
This is worth highlight and agree, though FWIW I have nothing else to add that isn't already in the comments. Just: I hated the name my parents originally gave me so much that it made me physically ill. My trans spouse has said that my reactions to that name were so intensely negative that it sounded like I had name dysphoria, like I reacted to it the same way he reacted to being called 'miss.' My parents relented and we picked a new name for me (edit to clarify: we did this when I was young, so I have not been called by Former Name in a long time except on paperwork see next sentence), but for dumb legal reasons I was 21 before it could be changed, meaning my significant other did see that name as my legal name and had to watch how I responded to it for a while ...
Said name is fine on other people, completely! But it is possible to just have such a visceral hatred for the name you were given, to feel completely "this is not me and is wrong" every time you hear it, and it doesn't seem likely? But maybe it is possible that the daughter feels this way about her name. And maybe she likes Sara.
Columnist should have at least considered the possibility that not-Sara likes being called that.
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This is worth highlight and agree, though FWIW I have nothing else to add that isn't already in the comments. Just: I hated the name my parents originally gave me so much that it made me physically ill. My trans spouse has said that my reactions to that name were so intensely negative that it sounded like I had name dysphoria, like I reacted to it the same way he reacted to being called 'miss.' My parents relented and we picked a new name for me (edit to clarify: we did this when I was young, so I have not been called by Former Name in a long time except on paperwork see next sentence), but for dumb legal reasons I was 21 before it could be changed, meaning my significant other did see that name as my legal name and had to watch how I responded to it for a while ...
Said name is fine on other people, completely! But it is possible to just have such a visceral hatred for the name you were given, to feel completely "this is not me and is wrong" every time you hear it, and it doesn't seem likely? But maybe it is possible that the daughter feels this way about her name. And maybe she likes Sara.
Columnist should have at least considered the possibility that not-Sara likes being called that.