I agree with this and appreciate you writing it out. I do have a question.
Find them somewhere better to sit and move on.
How do you do this tactfully? What is the Miss Manners appropriate way to direct an overweight person to appropriate furniture? This is where I struggled to understand some of the responses in the original post, and it's why I wish Danny had given the original LW a revised script instead of just retracting the original.
When I was a kid, my mother had an antique chair that was not in any way cheap or shoddily made. It was a perfectly fine chair for people of average weight. We once had a guest of well more than average weight whom we would have much preferred sit on the couch or a more study chair, but they selected the antique chair. My mother could not find a sensitive way to say, that chair which is fine for most people may not hold you. She just prayed. (This individual had seen others sit in the chair. We could not credibly claim the chair was unfit for use.)
I feel like our guest made a bad assessment and put my mother in an awkward position. Luckily, the chair held. What could she have said?
And I think the original LW's partner is doing something similar. The first breakage was unexpected, but the fourth or fifth? Surely by that time, rather than saying, "your stuff is crap," they can say, "hey, I seem to be breaking a lot of your stuff; can we talk about finding some furniture that works for me?".
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Find them somewhere better to sit and move on.
How do you do this tactfully? What is the Miss Manners appropriate way to direct an overweight person to appropriate furniture? This is where I struggled to understand some of the responses in the original post, and it's why I wish Danny had given the original LW a revised script instead of just retracting the original.
When I was a kid, my mother had an antique chair that was not in any way cheap or shoddily made. It was a perfectly fine chair for people of average weight. We once had a guest of well more than average weight whom we would have much preferred sit on the couch or a more study chair, but they selected the antique chair. My mother could not find a sensitive way to say, that chair which is fine for most people may not hold you. She just prayed. (This individual had seen others sit in the chair. We could not credibly claim the chair was unfit for use.)
I feel like our guest made a bad assessment and put my mother in an awkward position. Luckily, the chair held. What could she have said?
And I think the original LW's partner is doing something similar. The first breakage was unexpected, but the fourth or fifth? Surely by that time, rather than saying, "your stuff is crap," they can say, "hey, I seem to be breaking a lot of your stuff; can we talk about finding some furniture that works for me?".