LW's ex abused her, and it doesn't sound like either of them have acknowledged that. LW says she hurt her ex badly, presumably by leaving him. Hell no! He hurt her. Maybe he has escaped the toxic community that forces teenage girls to marry, changed himself, and wants to atone for the abuse. It does sound like LW is open to forgiving him: she says she is lucky to have him in her life. But both of them need to process what he did, and I encourage LW to give some thought to what sincere atonement would look like.
Personally, I find this situation nightmarish and would support LW cutting ties with everyone from her old life, especially her ex, but I'm trying to base my response on what LW says she wants. Maybe counseling would help LW clarify what she wants. I also recognize that co-parenting complicates the situation.
The letter is actually about LW's interest in the other woman. LW, go ahead. You don't owe your ex anything.
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LW's ex abused her, and it doesn't sound like either of them have acknowledged that. LW says she hurt her ex badly, presumably by leaving him. Hell no! He hurt her. Maybe he has escaped the toxic community that forces teenage girls to marry, changed himself, and wants to atone for the abuse. It does sound like LW is open to forgiving him: she says she is lucky to have him in her life. But both of them need to process what he did, and I encourage LW to give some thought to what sincere atonement would look like.
Personally, I find this situation nightmarish and would support LW cutting ties with everyone from her old life, especially her ex, but I'm trying to base my response on what LW says she wants. Maybe counseling would help LW clarify what she wants. I also recognize that co-parenting complicates the situation.
The letter is actually about LW's interest in the other woman. LW, go ahead. You don't owe your ex anything.