Enh, it was a bit long (which is one of the reasons I found it meaty enough for this community).

I like your note. Since the whole point here is about seeing who the kid is and what she prefers rather than pressing her into any pre-made box, the advice needs to be filtered through the child's personality. When I was little I would not have cared if my play-dress was ragged, but you would have, which would have required slightly different approaches for each of us.