“Our writer needs to ask herself whether she wants a partner or a project.”

Yeah, that’s a good wrap up. It sounds like she’s okay with doing education as the cost for the sweet sexing she’s getting. If she has the bandwidth and energy for it, I say keep it up.

If it looks like it’s edging towards a serious relationship, really think hard about whether this is someone who’s going to be judgey about your post-baby/middle-age figure. But for a < 2-year relationship, get that sweet sexing and hopefully leave him a better person than you found him.