...you know, having read the comments through, I think my advice would be for LW to treat this as if Greta was her +1, and handle it that way.
(One explanation for the level of upset is that Greta is the LW's life partner and the LW doesn't realize this.)
It's also possible Greta considers herself a grandparent, not just as LW's friend - I know quite a few elderly people with no bio grandkids who have "adopted" grandkids and would assume they're being treated as such for wedding invites. But if that's the case, Greta should be allowed to handle this with her own grandkids herself.
That said, given the general tone of the letter, maybe LW should wait and see if *she* gets an invite, because if I was granddaughter I would probably be thinking long and hard about that one.
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(One explanation for the level of upset is that Greta is the LW's life partner and the LW doesn't realize this.)
It's also possible Greta considers herself a grandparent, not just as LW's friend - I know quite a few elderly people with no bio grandkids who have "adopted" grandkids and would assume they're being treated as such for wedding invites. But if that's the case, Greta should be allowed to handle this with her own grandkids herself.
That said, given the general tone of the letter, maybe LW should wait and see if *she* gets an invite, because if I was granddaughter I would probably be thinking long and hard about that one.