I'm not saying he did anything wrong at all. wry smile I didn't say it would be a warranted grudge. But I can certainly see how such a grudge would come to be.

I have two children in my life whom I have no biological connection to, but I've been helping raise them. I love them. If someone who had the power to do so arrived and said to me, "I'm taking these children away from you and you will not see nor interact with them again," I wouldn't be happy. Even if it were the best thing in the world for them -- if it were the best thing for them I would try my best to let go. But I would not be happy and I would associate that person with pain and with possible separation from the children I love and am trying to help take care of, even if it didn't end up happening.