I'm the same way -- I don't want to live under the same roof as a dog (combination of fear from a childhood attack, aversion, and not wanting to have to deal with the major lifestyle adjustments that a dog requires, like not being able to make spontaneous dinner/evening plans bc the dog needs to be walked after being in the house all day.)
I don't hate dogs! I'm nice to dogs! I have rescued strange dogs who were wandering in the street and brought them back to their owners!
But I have a right for my HOME to feel safe and comfortable for me, and I can't genuinely relax if I know that a dog's head could pop up next to my face at any time.
My late ex-husband wanted a dog, and I said that it wasn't an option if he and I were going to live together. He always thought that was kind of unreasonable, and it was his right to feel that way, but it was MY right to not have to live with a dog that I would massively resent (especially since I was the person who was home during the day, due to my disability, and would have wound up with a lot of dog care foisted on me.)
He and I were both cat lovers, and we DID adopt two cats, and they're awesome.
We eventually split up for unrelated reasons, he got a dog, he was really happy about her, and he made a bunch of lifestyle changes to accommodate having a dog... and I'm glad he got what he wanted, without ME having to live with it.
I have pretty much zero sympathy for the LW, since there's no way for her to have a dog without it massively impacting her husband's life, and fostering a dog is 100% going to lead to her pressuring him to adopt it.
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I don't hate dogs! I'm nice to dogs! I have rescued strange dogs who were wandering in the street and brought them back to their owners!
But I have a right for my HOME to feel safe and comfortable for me, and I can't genuinely relax if I know that a dog's head could pop up next to my face at any time.
My late ex-husband wanted a dog, and I said that it wasn't an option if he and I were going to live together. He always thought that was kind of unreasonable, and it was his right to feel that way, but it was MY right to not have to live with a dog that I would massively resent (especially since I was the person who was home during the day, due to my disability, and would have wound up with a lot of dog care foisted on me.)
He and I were both cat lovers, and we DID adopt two cats, and they're awesome.
We eventually split up for unrelated reasons, he got a dog, he was really happy about her, and he made a bunch of lifestyle changes to accommodate having a dog... and I'm glad he got what he wanted, without ME having to live with it.
I have pretty much zero sympathy for the LW, since there's no way for her to have a dog without it massively impacting her husband's life, and fostering a dog is 100% going to lead to her pressuring him to adopt it.