Dear LW, There is an undercurrent here of unhappiness because your hubby is out spending whatever he wants on his hobby and you feel the imbalance. I recognize this vibe so hard from the so many other “modern” households in which supposedly everyone is equal and contributes to running the household but somehow the husband/father always seems to be the one who has time and money for their expensive hobbies (e.g. hockey) whereas mom is supposed to be certain that her hobby/interests are important enough before “wasting’ time or money on them, and/or should always be most interested in the kids as her hobby.
The solution is simple, divorce him, take the cats with you, get a dog (or two) and if future romance or partnership seems in the cards hold out for someone who genuinely loves the idea of living in a house with pets as this is clearly very important to you.
If one of the other commenters here wants to offer your soon to be ex-husband crashspace somthat he moves out rather than you and the cats then even better - it sounds like your lifestyle and home are perfect for dogs once you ditch the husband and his hobbies, but ditch him anyways even if you have to be the one to move out.
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There is an undercurrent here of unhappiness because your hubby is out spending whatever he wants on his hobby and you feel the imbalance. I recognize this vibe so hard from the so many other “modern” households in which supposedly everyone is equal and contributes to running the household but somehow the husband/father always seems to be the one who has time and money for their expensive hobbies (e.g. hockey) whereas mom is supposed to be certain that her hobby/interests are important enough before “wasting’ time or money on them, and/or should always be most interested in the kids as her hobby.
The solution is simple, divorce him, take the cats with you, get a dog (or two) and if future romance or partnership seems in the cards hold out for someone who genuinely loves the idea of living in a house with pets as this is clearly very important to you.
If one of the other commenters here wants to offer your soon to be ex-husband crashspace somthat he moves out rather than you and the cats then even better - it sounds like your lifestyle and home are perfect for dogs once you ditch the husband and his hobbies, but ditch him anyways even if you have to be the one to move out.
Sorry you wasted 20 years on him.