(By the way, I know pets are generally a family decision that should be unanimous, but I consider myself a modern feminist, and the idea that I need my husband’s permission for anything really, really irks me.)
There's no contradiction between feminism and "everyone in the family should be on board and in favor of a major decision like this"...
One of my coworkers has a dog she hates. She has this dog because others in her family wanted a dog. So now there's a dog. She has not come around on this dog. I don't think she ever will. She's also the one taking care of it. Kinda a shitty situation.
Also, "fostering a dog" is getting a dog. It's getting a dog for a shorter period of time, but it's still getting a dog. The answer to "I don't want a dog" is not "we'll just have a dog for now, not forever".
As someone who doesn't want a dog ever, I am not sympathetic to the LW's boundary pushing.
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There's no contradiction between feminism and "everyone in the family should be on board and in favor of a major decision like this"...
One of my coworkers has a dog she hates. She has this dog because others in her family wanted a dog. So now there's a dog. She has not come around on this dog. I don't think she ever will. She's also the one taking care of it. Kinda a shitty situation.
Also, "fostering a dog" is getting a dog. It's getting a dog for a shorter period of time, but it's still getting a dog. The answer to "I don't want a dog" is not "we'll just have a dog for now, not forever".
As someone who doesn't want a dog ever, I am not sympathetic to the LW's boundary pushing.