I agree with you⁠—I understand why the LW feels hurt. ⁠My wife and I had loads of people at our wedding closer to our parents than to us.

Frankly, I think the bride's mother is being pretty tactless to share so much about the wedding when she knows the LW wasn't invited. Guest lists have limits, and the LW should understand that⁠, but she doesn't need her exclusion rubbed in her face. It's hard to get over something when one gets constant reminders.