There are no generally-acknowledged social maps for this situation. Yet.
I'm thinking he found the optimal way to handle this for everyone: she is cared for by professionals (I assume Medicaid was invoked after the divorce), he's still visiting her, he isn't bankrupted by the long-term care bills, and he has met a wonderful, supportive partner. He is a good person and he has done all he can to be kind.
His ex-wife's family's opinion he can ignore. His son's conflict is understandable. He needs to talk with the son more, and maybe do some philosophical reading or talking with a pragmatic spiritual counselor or therapist to help with scripts for his son.
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I'm thinking he found the optimal way to handle this for everyone: she is cared for by professionals (I assume Medicaid was invoked after the divorce), he's still visiting her, he isn't bankrupted by the long-term care bills, and he has met a wonderful, supportive partner. He is a good person and he has done all he can to be kind.
His ex-wife's family's opinion he can ignore. His son's conflict is understandable. He needs to talk with the son more, and maybe do some philosophical reading or talking with a pragmatic spiritual counselor or therapist to help with scripts for his son.