I dunno. I'm older than the LW, and I only see my mother 3-5 times a year, but when I do, we stay in her house. If she had a partner who was uncomfortable with my presence and possessive of her time (of which I get very little), it would be a problem for me. And if his kids are older, there's a great big potential problem looming in the future: grandchildren. Maybe her attitude will change and she'll be thrilled to be a "MeeMaw," but if it doesn't, let me tell you: small children are simultaneously very, very sensitive to adults who don't like them and very, very unable to understand why and just let it go. Is Dad ready for every holiday to become a fight between spending time with Dawn and getting to see his grandkids open their presents/hunt for eggs/find the afikommen? Being a grandparent is one of the great rewards of parenting ;).
I know I'm biased because my daughter is the most precious thing in my life, sometimes the only thing that keeps me going, but I just can't imagine accepting a person who actively tried to keep me away from her, which is what it sounds like Dawn is doing.
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I dunno. I'm older than the LW, and I only see my mother 3-5 times a year, but when I do, we stay in her house. If she had a partner who was uncomfortable with my presence and possessive of her time (of which I get very little), it would be a problem for me. And if his kids are older, there's a great big potential problem looming in the future: grandchildren. Maybe her attitude will change and she'll be thrilled to be a "MeeMaw," but if it doesn't, let me tell you: small children are simultaneously very, very sensitive to adults who don't like them and very, very unable to understand why and just let it go. Is Dad ready for every holiday to become a fight between spending time with Dawn and getting to see his grandkids open their presents/hunt for eggs/find the afikommen? Being a grandparent is one of the great rewards of parenting ;).
I know I'm biased because my daughter is the most precious thing in my life, sometimes the only thing that keeps me going, but I just can't imagine accepting a person who actively tried to keep me away from her, which is what it sounds like Dawn is doing.