Thiiiiis. Like what the shit dude. Also what the shit, lady? You want no past, don't go for guys with kids! Did he, like, keep it secret until they were already together or something? If not, what is wrong with you?

I cannot imagine having this even be an issue. Granted, I already have a "love me, deal with my cat" policy, so my children would go without saying. (And anyone who thinks men would be different has a low opinion of fathers."