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kutsuwamushi ([personal profile] kutsuwamushi) wrote in [community profile] agonyaunt 2019-04-24 02:17 am (UTC)

This is one of those situations where I wonder why people can't just talk.

The LW refers to these people as her friends, but apparently can't tell them the real reason her husband isn't joining them: He's a lot more introverted than she is, and prefers to stay home more often than she does. And she's happy with this!

It's natural if her friends want to be welcoming toward her husband, and when told he can't make it, try to find out why and how to fix it. Sure, they probably should have gotten the hint by now, but the LW can't even start to draw boundaries or address any attitude issues until she's willing to do something other than make polite excuses.

And put me into the "this response sucks" category. The problem isn't that her husband doesn't want to go out, it's that the LW doesn't know how to communicate that her husband doesn't want to go out. But these are her friends, what is up with that?

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