It's possible that he doesn't like these people she wants to hang out with, and that's fine, but he can turn down his own invitation himself.
It's possible that he's the social catch and they're inviting her to get him. That is a thing that happens.
"A couple times a year," for most casual couple friendships, is a normal amount. I wonder what else is going on here? Where in the Bay Area is she finding these super-traditional-sounding couples who think that spouses always travel yoked? There are some very staid pockets, it's true, but she's young and in finance and I assume these are contemporaries, not the Senior VP for Development or something actually work-related for her. Is there a churchy element to this?
Consider getting some new friends if they say rude things about your spouse, LW! Especially if they won't take No for an answer and drop the subject.
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It's possible that he's the social catch and they're inviting her to get him. That is a thing that happens.
"A couple times a year," for most casual couple friendships, is a normal amount. I wonder what else is going on here? Where in the Bay Area is she finding these super-traditional-sounding couples who think that spouses always travel yoked? There are some very staid pockets, it's true, but she's young and in finance and I assume these are contemporaries, not the Senior VP for Development or something actually work-related for her. Is there a churchy element to this?
Consider getting some new friends if they say rude things about your spouse, LW! Especially if they won't take No for an answer and drop the subject.