There are A LOT of things the Dad is doing wrong, which I'll address in a separate comment.
But, as far as paying for the bat mitzvah goes,
1. I don't think the father should feel obligated to pay more than he can comfortably afford.
2. He should be allowed to attend regardless of how much $ he has contributed.
I am actually wondering if the $ is a fig leaf - if the father's behaviour towards the daughter has been SO unkind/contemptuous that the mother is trying to use the $ issue to keep the father from attending and potentially spoiling the daughter's special day.
If there is genuine cause to believe that the father will be abusive towards the daughter at the bat mitzvah, he should not be invited even if he pays for the whole thing!
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But, as far as paying for the bat mitzvah goes,
1. I don't think the father should feel obligated to pay more than he can comfortably afford.
2. He should be allowed to attend regardless of how much $ he has contributed.
I am actually wondering if the $ is a fig leaf - if the father's behaviour towards the daughter has been SO unkind/contemptuous that the mother is trying to use the $ issue to keep the father from attending and potentially spoiling the daughter's special day.
If there is genuine cause to believe that the father will be abusive towards the daughter at the bat mitzvah, he should not be invited even if he pays for the whole thing!