I've spoken a couple of times on my school's Ally training panel ("Hi, I'm Lucy, and I'll be your bisexual this afternoon"), and that's always a delicate balance. No, I never had to fight to get my spouse on my medical benefits. No, I've never worried about introducing him at school functions. And no one's ever outright challenged my sexual orientation. But I don't feel entirely comfortable in the queer community at my school. Some of that is on me, but not all of it. And that's something I do bring up at the panel, as uncomfortable as it is.