There is privilege inherent in any relationship that reads as straight.
Yes and no. I sure didn't feel it was a privilege to be constantly mistaken for a straight person, by both queer and unqueer people, when I was desperately in need of queer community.
I once mentioned to a coworker that I was a judge for the Lambda Awards. "I didn't know they let straight people do that," she said. I stared at her. "They don't," I said, and waited for the penny to drop.
It was a real relief for me when my other partner (then female-identified) moved in and I could start saying "MY GIRLFRIEND" at every opportunity.
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Yes and no. I sure didn't feel it was a privilege to be constantly mistaken for a straight person, by both queer and unqueer people, when I was desperately in need of queer community.
I once mentioned to a coworker that I was a judge for the Lambda Awards. "I didn't know they let straight people do that," she said. I stared at her. "They don't," I said, and waited for the penny to drop.
It was a real relief for me when my other partner (then female-identified) moved in and I could start saying "MY GIRLFRIEND" at every opportunity.