My test case for lgbtq advice columnists is always going to be how they handle this kind of bisexual erasure/gatekeeping. I'm really pleased that Papi passed.

Personally, I find that when I'm talking to people I don't know, I'm much more likely to refer to my husband as my "partner" and my wife as my "wife." I'd much rather be assumed queer and then reveal a husband, than assumed straight and then reveal a wife. (This in situations that don't involve me revealing both.)