There's something about that "have not asked him if I should" that bothers me, and that Harriette seems to have missed: maybe it's careless phrasing, but the implication is that the boyfriend would get to make the decisions. Decisions, plural, because "do we want to have children, and if so how soon?" and "if the answer is anything other than 'Yes, and we'd both be happy if LW got pregnant two months from now,,' what birth control should we use?" are different questions.