The IUD is not really the issue, here, although the fact that neither you nor Harriette seems to know that it can be removed before three years if you wish is a little worrisome (it's in the commercials, for heaven's sake!).
The issue is that you want to know where your relationship is going, and some kind of timeline for when things like marriage or kids might happen, if they are in fact going to happen. That is a perfectly reasonable clear-your-calendars, turn-off-your-cellphones, let's talk about this discussion. If you want to use the IUD as a way of bringing it up ("You know, now that I'm scheduled to have it out and have to decide about replacing it, I've been thinking about the future.") But please don't wave some kind of three-year commitment to the new IUD at him. Neither of you needs to be making decisions under that kind of pressure, and luckily, you don't have to.
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The issue is that you want to know where your relationship is going, and some kind of timeline for when things like marriage or kids might happen, if they are in fact going to happen. That is a perfectly reasonable clear-your-calendars, turn-off-your-cellphones, let's talk about this discussion. If you want to use the IUD as a way of bringing it up ("You know, now that I'm scheduled to have it out and have to decide about replacing it, I've been thinking about the future.") But please don't wave some kind of three-year commitment to the new IUD at him. Neither of you needs to be making decisions under that kind of pressure, and luckily, you don't have to.