LW's grandparent expectations are far and above normal grandparenting.

Yeah, she made me do a mental inventory in my head of my own grandparents.

• Paternal grandfather: dead before I was born.
• Maternal grandfather: divorced from my grandmother and mostly estranged from my mom's family, lived airplane distances away, I can count the number of times I met him on my fingers.
• Paternal grandmother: lived airplane distances away, twice yearly visits that she mostly spent with adults, loving but distant.
• Maternal grandmother: lived nearby and did some babysitting on occasion, but certainly didn't play with my sisters and I. She was loving and kind but also mostly just wanted to keep us out of trouble and watch her soaps.

And my maternal grandmother's presence in my life growing up was greater than the presence of grandparents in most of my friends' lives. Maybe LW herself had the storybook grandparent experience growing up? But not a lot of people get that, in my experience.