My slightly more serious suggestions, if you really don't want to stir shit, is: go to the good siblings/cousins, let them know how badly you're hurt by the gifts you're given by some family members, ask them if they'd be willing to help you push for a different kind of gift exchange going forward. A lot of families stop exchanging gifts between all adults as generations turn over, so you could suggest something like:
1. Over-18s do a Secret Santa with one gift each from now on (with ringers to make sure you don't match someone you shouldn't.) 2. Over-18s don't open presents at the event, that lets you pay more attention to the kids' experience, they take theirs home to open later (you can have a cousin vet yours) 3. Adults in the extended family exchange only food/only gift cards/only charitable donations etc.
It will probably get some pushback but if you have enough other people backing you up you can at least try? They use excuses like budgets, making the gift exchange take less time, wanting to reduce clutter/materialism, etc. so it can't turn into an argument about your transition. And if some people insist on giving you bad gifts even if the alternative is agreed on by everybody, you can say, "oh no, I only got you [agreed on thing], I can't accept this when I didn't get you anything!", put it aside, and "accidentally" leave it behind when you go.
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1. Over-18s do a Secret Santa with one gift each from now on (with ringers to make sure you don't match someone you shouldn't.)
2. Over-18s don't open presents at the event, that lets you pay more attention to the kids' experience, they take theirs home to open later (you can have a cousin vet yours)
3. Adults in the extended family exchange only food/only gift cards/only charitable donations
etc.
It will probably get some pushback but if you have enough other people backing you up you can at least try? They use excuses like budgets, making the gift exchange take less time, wanting to reduce clutter/materialism, etc. so it can't turn into an argument about your transition. And if some people insist on giving you bad gifts even if the alternative is agreed on by everybody, you can say, "oh no, I only got you [agreed on thing], I can't accept this when I didn't get you anything!", put it aside, and "accidentally" leave it behind when you go.