I agree - I'm the child of donor insemination and these days, even that tends to eventually come up with friends, and I certainly wouldn't hide it from a spouse.
That said, this may hinge on what the writer's wife knows about the circumstances of her adoption. We have two adoptions in my extended family of people who are aware they were conceived out of incest. I can easily imagine a couple of situations where family members know about the adoption but not about the birth parents, but the writer's wife does and is fearful about being judged.
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That said, this may hinge on what the writer's wife knows about the circumstances of her adoption. We have two adoptions in my extended family of people who are aware they were conceived out of incest. I can easily imagine a couple of situations where family members know about the adoption but not about the birth parents, but the writer's wife does and is fearful about being judged.