cereta: Laura Cereta (cereta)
Lucy ([personal profile] cereta) wrote in [community profile] agonyaunt2017-08-04 06:34 am

Dear Abby: Marriage of Convenience Would Come With Better Benefits

DEAR ABBY: I am a gay man. My friend "Brian" and I have known each other for 10 years. We dated for a while, but realized we are better off as friends. We have lived together for the past several years and are now considering getting married because my job has better benefits. My question is, is a marriage of convenience legal? -- GOING TO THE CHAPEL?

DEAR GOING: Marriages of convenience have been happening since the institution of marriage was invented. That said, however, this is a question you should address to a lawyer to make sure that if you decide to marry Brian, you'll be going to the chapel instead of going to the hoosegow for insurance fraud.
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[personal profile] korafox 2017-08-04 01:11 pm (UTC)(link)
Yes, I'm pretty sure as long as you are legal spouses and you are not trying to claim/have multiple spouses, you could be bitter archenemies and it would not matter one bit for the purpose of employer-provided insurance.

Hm, that would make a very interesting foeyay fanfic.... ^~^
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[personal profile] delight 2017-08-04 04:24 pm (UTC)(link)
Two of my closest friends (both AFAB) got married as soon as gay marriage was legalized in Texas ...

... 90% for health insurance and the last 10% was so the small human could have a second legal parent. They consider each other queerplatonic soulmates, but both are in romantic/sexual relationships with other people. I'm pretty sure that friend's employer even KNOWS this is why they got married. Nobody seems to care.
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[personal profile] naath 2017-08-04 01:23 pm (UTC)(link)
I don't know about insurance, I'm not in he US. But if you try to do this to change someone's immigration status you should expect lots of intrusive questions to establish that the marriage isn't a sham to get papers
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[personal profile] redbird 2017-08-04 05:48 pm (UTC)(link)
As I understand it, immigration's intrusive questions are things like "which side of the bed do you sleep on?" (on the assumption that in a "real" marriage the people share a bed). But it's easier to agree to say "yes, of course" for "has this marriage been consummated?" than to keep stories straight on "who sleeps on which side of the bed?" or "how does your wife take her coffee?"
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[personal profile] ambyr 2017-08-04 02:04 pm (UTC)(link)
I am puzzled why anyone would address a legal question to Dear Abby, who last I checked is not known for her law degree.
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[personal profile] mommy 2017-08-04 02:08 pm (UTC)(link)
There are certainly worse reasons to get married. This one feels rather benign.
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[personal profile] azurelunatic 2017-08-13 09:42 pm (UTC)(link)
I have some friends who got married for housing and insurance purposes. Great friends.

My thought is practical and legal, but not the way you're thinking: make sure you keep who owns what in mind and agreed upon, in case you want to divorce later...